Moncton's Mgr. Henri-Cormier Lodge offers refuge for cancer patients

I can see the pink line bisecting my body in the radiation room in Moncton. It's how the technicians position me on the radiation machine.

The beams of light align with the lines drawn on my skin with a purple marker lines punctuated by what look like the crosshairs in a rifle's scope.

The radiologists want to fire that radiation at me with the same kind of precision, to avoid my heart and lungs while they go after any lingering breast cancer cells.

They tell me to take shallow breaths, so the purple lines don't shift too much. It's all I can think about at first.

The lights intersect in a cross above me. I offer up a prayer.

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Faced with decisions

My decision to go to Moncton for radiation was one of a myriad of decisions I had to make about the what and where of my treatment for breast cancer.

Today, I know I got at least one right.

On Nov. 17 last year, three months before my arrival at the Mgr. Henri-Cormier Lodge in Moncton, I sat in my doctor's office in Fredericton, listening to her explain the results of a biopsy.

At the end of her day, when the waiting room had emptied out, Dr. Ann Collins told me I had invasive ductal carcinoma, the most common form of breast cancer.

Then she gave a hint of the decisions to come.

"You're going to have surgery, whether it's a local lumpectomy, where they identify the area and then remove around it, or something beyond that, [your surgeon will], talk to you about that."

My husband, George, suggested I record the meeting with Collins, so that later we could absorb more details. It was a brilliant suggestion, and the doctor agreed. I'm listening to the conversation now.

Suddenly on the inside

After the diagnosis I felt my view of cancer suddenly switch. I went from an observer to an insider, in an instant. But I also felt oddly detached.

"OK, millions of women have had this," I told myself. "I guess I'm now on the conveyor belt towards the big fixand the experienced medical staff will tell me what to do next."

How wrong I was.

I had to decide: lumpectomy or mastectomy? Take a little out, and zap the rest and hope for the best?- Catherine Harrop

The experts informed, explained, provided literature, talked about statistics. But crucial decisions fell to me.

I had to decide: lumpectomy or mastectomy?

Take a little outand zap the rest and hope for the best? Or have it all taken off? Or maybe both, because, well, you never know.

Made rounds for advice

I kept finding myself at a fork in the road, desperately leaning on friends, familyand strangers to help me decide whether to go left or right.

The biggest choice, by far, came after my medical oncologist, Dr. Ghadeer Anan, gave me survival statistics and said the decision to have chemotherapy or not was mine.

The statistics were generated with a computer program. The doctor put in my age, size of tumour and other factors, and out popped different projections for survivability, depending on the choice of treatment.

My tumour was big enough to make chemo an option, but small enough to land it squarely in a grey area with no clear choice of treatment.

For $4K,perhapsmoreguidance

I was told I could pay US$4,000 to get a test that goes to the gene level to determine if chemotherapy or radiation would be effective on me. Each treatment is rated on a scale of effectiveness.

A short tour of Mgr. Henri-Cormier Lodge

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Director Isabelle Laplante gives you a short tour of some of Moncton's Mgr. Henri-Cormier Lodge's facilities.But Anan said she had seen some patients get back results in a mid-range, which left them no further ahead in their decision-making.

There is also a test for a breast cancer gene, which is done through the IWK Health Centre in Halifax.

After some deliberation, I said no to both tests and opted for radiation.

But where to have it? That was my last decision.

I live in Fredericton, but only Moncton and Saint John offer radiation in New Brunswick. Going to Moncton hadn't crossed my mind until my husband and I dropped in to see the Mgr. Henri-Cormier Lodge.

We were blown away.

Attached to oncology centre

The lodge is a place of refuge, waiting, community and boredom for those having cancer treatments at the Dr. Lon-Richard Oncology Centre.

With financial support from the Tree of Hope fundraiser and from theprovince, the lodge is open to any patients who have to travel farther than 100 kilometres for cancer treatment.

And it's free. They even provide vouchers for food at the cafeteria.

I soon realized I wasn't the only patient who'd never heard of the place, just a tunnel away from the oncology centre that is part of the Dr. Georges-L.-Dumont hospital.

"I didn't know anything about this facility," said Frank McLean, a 57-year-old fit-looking guy from Dalhousie. "I'd never heard tell of the Tree of Hope, to be honest with you."

McLean was undergoing treatment for prostate cancer. When he mentioned the lodge to his father, he learned the local Rotary Club had raised money for it.

"I told him to make sure you tell the boys your money is being well spent, the way they're making life easier for people here. "

My husband and I arrived at the lodge in February and stayed for the better part of three weeks.

Nuns imagined chats

Check-in day was like the first day at a new school. The teachers were nice, but the students were checking out the new arrivals. We did what most new arrivals do, apparently: hid out in our room the first day.

Nuns, I was told, had a say in the planning of the lodge's bedrooms back in the 1990s, insisting there be no TVs, to encourage people to wander down and sit at the community tables next to the open concept kitchen.

The nuns were prescient. And they'd be happy to know that even with Wi-Fi, the need for conversation has residents at the lodge gravitating to the tables.

Patients at the lodge come from all walks of life, from careers as varied as librarian, hospital worker, fisherman, reporter, from communities as varied as Bathurst, Richibucto, Miramichi and Fredericton.

Marks offer clues

Initially, no one asked about my diagnosis; they just shared their own. But those purple marker lines peeking out above my shirt were a giveaway. Without asking, the other patients knew that it was breast cancer.

I expected a fair amount of tears in the telling, and there were some. What I didn't expect was the laughter, and the activities organized by multiple volunteers, who arrive to break up the day. Who knew there would be fun at a cancer lodge?

Jocelyn Thomas works for Scotiabank in Campbellton. When she found out she would be in Moncton for six weeks of treatment for breast cancer, she said she expected to be bored.

"They have sewing of a quilt, they have making jewelry, they have bingo on Monday nightand then Wednesday we have a band come in, which is absolutely fabulous.

"Everybody's happy, they're enjoying the music, and some are even getting up dancing, really having a great time."

Gerald Girouard agreed.

'Just like a family'

"Always something to do, eh? We all have a good time. We all joke around with one another, just like a family. And we're all sick. Hard to believe."

I met of few of the regular volunteers. Francine Mazerolle led the art class, bringing in Chaga tea for us to try. I even signed up to make a birdhouse.

Longtime volunteer Emile Cormiermoved out of the way surprisingly fast when I picked up the hammer.

But as much as the staff and volunteers at the lodge did everything to make the patients feel at home, most longed to be back in their own beds.

One exception was Kimberly MacDonald, who came to the lodge from the small community of Acadie Siding, outside Rogersville.

I watched as Charline Melanson, the cleaner, gave her a solid hug.

Life-changing stay

MacDonald, 56, would rent a room at the lodge forever if she could. Because of a difficult home situation and the kindness and warmth she experienced at the lodge, she said she'd decided not to return to AcadieSiding.

Every day for 16 days, I walked through the tunnel that connects the lodge and the oncology centre, following the purple arrows.

The tunnel is lined with old black and white photos of New Brunswick scenes, and pictures of doctors, nuns and nurses from another century. Some are bent over instruments that make you thankful you're from this century.

I finished my treatments in the spring, not long after two of my new-found friends sang "Happy Birthday" to me under the Radiology sign.

As a reporter, I knew I wanted to come the lodge again, not as a patient but to tell its story and share what it meant to those staying there.

'I find I pray a lot'

When I met GeraldGirouard on my return, I learned he and I shared a similar ritual during radiation. The former longshoreman from the Miramichi is being treated for bowel cancer.

"When I go through radiation, and they put me in that big machine, I find I pray a lot when I'm inside there. I even told the nurses, and they said, 'really?' and I said, 'Yes.'"

Gerald, Jocelyn, Kimberly and Frank were patients at the lodge this November. I thank them for braving the television camera and sharing their stories.

I will never know if my treatment decisions were the right ones. If the cancer comes back, I am reminded, it might have come back anyway.

I do know that the decision that brought me to the Mgr. Henri-Cormier Lodge in Moncton was right.