DIY funerals: How to do it 'rite' at home

DIY Funerals: Rite at Home is a five-part radio series exploring home funerals. The series ran fromJuly 4 to July 8 on CBC Radio One's afternoon shows in B.C.

Taking care of dead loved ones at home can be an affordable and intimate alternative to payinga funeral provider and for those interested in doing so, there are important things to know beforeundertaking such a task.

Home funerals can be done safely and legally in British Columbia if the proper steps arefollowed. This includes filing the proper paperwork, gathering practical supplies, and adhering to the Cremation, Interment and Funeral Services Act.

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Navigating the paperwork

Some people hire a death doula, someone who specializes in home funerals, to help themnavigate the paperwork.

If a home death is expected, a physician can prepare a notification of expected death in thehome form. This allows the family to have time with their deceased loved one without immediatelycontacting a physician to pronounce death.

The death will need to be registered with The British Columbia Vital Statistics Agency, where adisposition permit will be issued to confirm where the body will be buried, or cremated.

If a funeral home is not moving the body, then a private transport permit must be applied forthrough Consumer Protection BC.Without this form, transporting a body violates the Funeral Services Act.

A death doula can also teach people how to care for a dead body. They are not registeredfuneral providers and cannot be paid to wash a body, but they can provide instruction andsupport.

You can never have too much ice

Dead bodies need to be kept cool. It is essential to have ice packs on hand to place around thevital organs of a person after they pass.

Pashta MaryMoon is a death doula who helps families prepare for home funerals. She saidpeople need to be prepared for the effects of rigor mortis.

"You often see in movies somebody dies and their eyes are open and then they just pass theirhands over top of the eyelids and they shut," said MaryMoon, who explained this is not normallythe case in real life.

MaryMoon's DIY tips include using sandwich bags of rice to weigh down eyelids. She alsorecommends using a headscarf to secure the corpse's jaw closed before rigor mortis sets in.

The body can be washed with essential oils that kill bacteria, but Charlotte Poncelet, executivedirector of the BC Funeral Association said it is important to disclose medical history if you areplanning a home funeral.

This will protect body handlers from being unknowingly exposed tohepatitis or other health risks.

Blending traditions

Not everyone wants to wash their own dead.

Ngaio Davis is an independent Vancouver funeral director. She suggests talking to your lovedones well in advance and planning according to personal comfort levels.

"I would like to see things really open up and just be a blending," said Davis."It doesn't have to be flaky, it doesn't have to be stiff and funeral direct-y,it can be just what youneed."

With files from CBC Radio One's On The Coast