Sex and kids: When it comes to talking to your children about it, knowledge is power

This story is part of Amy Bell's Parental Guidancecolumnthat airs on CBCRadio One'sThe Early Edition.

You know what I don't like thinking about?My children having sex!

But as uncomfortable as it may be, sex willlikely become an important part of all our children's lives at some point whether we're ready for it or not.

And while many parentsmyself includedhave felt themselves breaking out in a cold sweat when faced with "the talk," we need to make sure our children get the right information before it's too late.

And sometimes, we need a little help.

In Canada, we're lucky that our kids, not only learn about the ABCs and 123s at school, they also learn about the birds and the bees.

While sexual education curriculacan vary from province to province, schools in B.C. actually have a modern and inclusive mandate to teach children about their bodies and sexual health.

Recent updates have included gender identity and gender fluidity.But it comes down to the individual teacher to share these lessons with their class and that's where things can vary widely from school to school and teacher to teacher.

Our kids are hyper-sexualised at at younger and younger ages.- Saleema Noon

Many schools opt to bring in a supplementary educator to host more in-depth lessons specifically on sexual and body health.

Saleema Noon is a sexual health educator whoalong with her team of colleagueshas been helping parents and kids navigate, for nearly 20 years,what can still be a relatively taboo subject.

She's seen firsthand the increasing amount of information kids are exposed to at younger and younger agesand constantly updates her teachings to make surethey are able to process and question what they've seen and heard.

"Some things don't change.Puberty is puberty, " she says. "Our kids are hyper-sexualized at younger and younger ages. We don't have an option. We need to have these conversations.We need to be open with them, so that they're coming to us."

Noon also says that questions she once facedfrom Grade 10 students are now coming from studentsas young as Grade 7.

"I can't help butguess that's an immediate responseto things they've seen online," saidNoon. "Orin the nature of the TV shows and movies that they're watching. Even our song lyrics have changed"

But even if teachers and parents get on board with a more in-depth sexual education plan, it's not going to be an easy sell.I spoke with a normally rowdygroup of 12-year-olds to see how comfortable theywerelearning about sexual health.

"I find it uncomfortable to learn with my peers, " said one girl. "Just,over all, not very good," said another.

Our kids know a lot more than they probably let on and we need to accept andacknowledgethat.

We put a lot of importance on our children learning subjects like math, social studiesand science, so why shouldn'tsex educationbe just as important?

We don't know that ourkids are going to grow up to multiply fractions on a regular basis, but chances are they are going to have sexor are already having it. So, let's make sure that they have the information to be safe, respectful, fully consensual and prepared for when they do decide to "do it."