Canadian legal systems 'get it wrong' on serial sex abuse, says former Winnipegger who accused Graham James

For many years, former hockey player Greg Gilhooly planned never to go public with the story of sexual abuse he says he suffered as a teen in Winnipeg.

Gilhooly says after he met coach Graham Jameswhen Gilhooly was 14 and a talented goalieJames convinced him to keep their meetings to talk hockey secret. James told him, Gilhoolysays, that the young goalie'sown coaches would object to meddling.

Gilhooly says by the time the abuse was happening,he had been groomed to the point he believed the only person in his life he could speak to was James himself.

For years following, after Gilhooly escaped to Princeton University in the U.S., he battled the painful memories privately, and the feeling of worthlessness that came with them.

In the end, Gilhooly came forward with charges, although those charges were eventually stayedas part ofa deal to convict James of sexual abuse charges against former NHLers Todd Holtand Theo Fleury when they were in their teens, too meaningGilhooly'sallegations against James will remain unproven in a court of law.

Earlier this month, Gilhooly published a book about his experienceand on Tuesday, the now-lawyer will give a talk at University of Manitoba about criminal lawreform.

"It has, in some ways, been therapeutic," he said of writing the book in an interview on CBC Manitoba'sUp To Speed.

"It was never my intention to write a book. It was never my intention to go public with my name and it was never my intention to tell anybody but people close to me. And it was only when Graham refused to admit guilt that this came about."

He called his book I Am Nobody: Confronting the Sexually Abusive Coach Who Stole my Life. He says he chose the first portion of the title because during the abuse and for a long time after, he really believed it was true.

"First off, books like this are usually written by people that have a built-in audience. And I'm really just a nobody, right? I'm not a former hockey star. I'm not a former politician or a businessperson of any note. I'm just a grown-up version of the kid who could've been playing on the street outside," he said.

"More importantly, coming out of the abuse, I truly became nobody at all. I lost all sense of self and ceased to exist."

'Parents, trust your gut'

In 2012, Graham James was sentenced totwo years in jail for the abuse of Fleury and Holt.The sentencewas raised to five years on appeal. James was released on full parole in September 2016.

Gilhooly says Canada needs to change how it treats people found guilty of serial sexual abuse of children.

"I'm not a 'lock 'em up and throw away the key' type. But in Canada, Graham James walks freely amongst us right now. We incarcerate people who rob banks for longer than we do serial child sexual offenders," Gilhooly said.

"And I think our mistakes come from good intentions. We believe that everyone deserves a second chance. We believe in rehabilitation. I think we over-incarcerate, unfortunately, far too much. In finding this happy medium, we kind of get it wrong at both ends."

Gilhoolyhas some advice for parents who are worried their kids might be being victimized.

"Parents, do whatever you can to maintain an open line of communication with your children, so that they have someplace to go, they have somebody they trust who they still are in contact with," he said.

"And parents, trust your gut. If you see something wrong, trust your gut. Don't be afraid to stick your nose into a situation that you think seems a little off."